Is it true that “what you see in others exists in you?” Hardly! That is nothing but recycled and rehashed tunnel vision perpetrated by the “A Course In Miracles” crowd! It is geared to convince you that you project illusion into your environment and you are responsible for the behaviors of others.
In the philosophy of Ho’oponopono, it says that if someone has done something that the potential for that exists in you and that by healing that ‘potential’ in you that it will heal it in others. It doesn’t mean that because that ‘potential’ exists that you are the onethat is projecting any aberrance at all to another to ‘react’ with aberrant behavior.
Yes, ultimately, we are all ‘responsible’ for the behaviors of others either by giving too much attention to them or by not giving enough attention to them at critical moments in their lives. However, ultimately it is THEIR responsibility to either choose to follow the guidance of their ego or the guidance of the Spirit of God.
Don’t be caught up in the veil of deception that blames you for the aberrance of others. It is designed by ‘ego’ to control, dominate and manipulate your assessments of the perceived dualistic reality as a result of your ‘projection’. Yes, we do ‘project’ things into our environment but we do NOT project anything that is NOT emotionalized by our hearts. We do not project hatred or fear into another to harm or murder someone else. Wedo not spend our time thinking about others murdering others and deriving satisfaction from it. Only those who do co-create a reality that fulfills THEIR projections; not yours! So, in essence, what you see in others does not necessarily exist in you!
What you see in others is their projection of THEIR fears and you recognize them because you ‘understand’ just what they are; you consider their source and know they are aberrant. This does NOT mean that you have created the behaviors of others. If you choose to believe that you do, you are definitely fooling yourself. Stop listening to what ANYONE says and go within to spend time with the Divine Infinite Spirit who created you to be PERFECT.
Perfection means that you ‘balance’ the needs of the ego with the receiving of Divine love from the Spirit of God within. It means that you allow your inner well-being to guide you more than meeting the selfish yearnings of your ego! Be ye therefore perfect! That’s how the Divine sees you; why don’t you learn to see yourself that way as well? ~Dean A. Banks, D.D. (Spirituality Guidance Channel)