When you use your own set of morals to judge the thoughts, feelings, beliefs, words, actions and behaviors you have the right to do so to determine whether or not you want to associate with them and have them influence your peace. What you don’t have the right to do is tell them who they ought to be, what they should do with their life, where they need to be in their life, how they need to get there, when they should arrive and why they should follow what you have to say.
If they ask you for guidance give itto them based on your experience but not predicated on whether or not they choose to listen to your guidance. Be helpful and not deceitful, gentle and not forceful, kind and not abusive and most of all, be truthful and not deceptive. If they respond with disdain or with telling you that you should not be too harsh, remind them that tough love means that you share the truth ALWAYS and never pull any punches.
The problem with this world as it stands is that too many people allow evil to flourish by thinking that they are being spiritual by ‘sending them love’ or just doing nothing. Nothing could be further from the truth. Did Yeshua stand by and do nothing with the money changers who violatedthe temple? Or did he stand up and wound some egos by tearing apart their enterprises? He spoke with authority because he KNEW that the truth is the only way in which to live. No namby pamby spiritual ‘just send them love’ horseshit. He stood up for what he KNEW was right and set an example.
I am not suggesting to anyone that you show up at a temple and tear apart some tables to prove that you know the truth; what I am saying is that sometimes you have to go beyond convention to make the truth be known. He also showed love in the face of Peter’s violence when he cut off the ear of the Roman soldier. He healed the soldier with Divine love. In the face of aberrance we must all act appropriately in the moment to whatever situation we are facing.
Be loving, kind and understanding but take no B.S. from anyone when they are defending their aberrances, infirmities and behaviors that affect your ongoing state of peace. Being spiritual means being loving with the strength of Divine truth as your guide. Never forget that! ~Dean A. Banks, D.D. (Spirituality Guidance Channel)