When someone says, “I love you”, does that actually mean that they fulfill a part of you that you perceive that you need or is it that you want to fulfill a part of them that you ‘hope’ they will perceive? Being ‘in (romantic) love’ with someone else means that your feelings are so overwhelming that you feel the need to act on them immediately. It is a surge of emotions that drives your every thought, word, action and deed to fulfill your desire to be with them.
What happens to someone ‘in love’ that discovers that this need was onlya perception on their part that occurred at some time in the past and no longer applies? They either try to recapture this ‘feeling’ of longing and passion or they seek it elsewhere. Why do some people do this? Is it because their passion, longing and advances are not being met favorably? Or is it because they are reaching for something to ‘fill the gap’ that they are perceiving in themselves? Whatever it may be when a person is looking outside of themselves to experience what they perceive as ‘love’ they will never truly find it. They will convince themselves that they ‘have’ it when in reality they are just ‘believing’ that they have it.
Life and romantic love evolve from oneexperience to another in a ‘mutual loving relationship’ with two people who are mature enough to understand that each other are not the ‘be all and end all’ of everything. It means that you experience joy every day with that person no matter what befalls both of you and you develop a deep feeling of ‘spiritual’ certainty in Divine order because of your bond. Your Divine purposes become intertwined in a dance of Divine love. Your hearts operate truly as One!
Being in love is the one of the greatest experiences any one of us can have and it allows us to touch the heart of the Divine. Be thankful for that love and for your partner. Be willing to go out of your way to nurture them, show them tenderness and help them fulfill their individual purpose. It is why they are there with you and it why you are there with them. Live in joy every moment and be thankful for the shared experience of growth and expansion together. Peace. ~Dean A. Banks, D.D. (Spirituality Guidance Channel)